Reading Spirit Cards for Kids and Offering Grief Support

Christian Millward
Sep 19
3 min read

A gentle guide to helping children express grief and stay connected through spirit communication cards

Grief changes a child, just like it changes an adult. But children don’t always have the language to say what they feel or ask the questions swirling in their hearts. They may not want big answers. They may just want a way to remember. To speak. To feel close.

Spirit cards can be a simple tool for kids and grief support. You don’t need a belief system or psychic ability to use them with your child. You just need openness. Curiosity. And a willingness to sit beside their grief without trying to fix it.

Here’s how to gently introduce spirit cards to your child as a way of remembering and reaching out.

1. Explain the Spirit Cards for Kids as a Way to Say Hello and Offer Grief Support

Instead of calling them “tools” or “messages,” you might simply say:

“These cards are a way we can remember Grandma. Sometimes they help us feel what she might want us to know.”
“It’s okay if you’re not sure what they mean. We just let the cards help us feel a little closer.”

This removes pressure and keeps the tone warm, not mystical. Let it be something you do together rather than a task to get right.

2. Let Them Choose the Timing

You might ask:

“Would you like to pull a card for [loved one’s name] today?”
“Would it help to see what the cards say when you’re missing them?”

Some children will say yes right away. Others might want to just watch you pull a card first. Either way is right. Trust their pace.

3. Keep the Card Pull Simple

Encourage your child to close their eyes, take a deep breath, and ask a soft question like:

“Are you still with me?”
“What do you want me to know today?”
“Can you send me a word?”

Let them pull one card. Sit with it together. Say the word aloud. You can ask:

“Does that word remind you of them?”
“What does that word make you feel?”

There’s no need to explain too much. Sometimes children will come up with meanings that surprise you. Let their imagination lead.

4. Use the Card as a Springboard

After the pull, you can draw, journal, or even write a letter “back” to your loved one together.

Or you can simply say, “Thank you for the message,” and light a candle. What matters most is that your child feels seen. That their emotions have a place to go.

5. Make It a Ritual, Not a Rule

You don’t have to use the cards daily. They can come out on birthdays, hard mornings, or just when your child says, “Can we talk to them today?”

Over time, the deck becomes a familiar, comforting presence. A place where grief and memory are both allowed.

6. Create a “Kids Card” Ritual Option

If you like, you can create a gentle version of a card pull just for your child:

Pull one card each month and tape it near their bed
Let them draw a picture of what the card reminds them of
Keep a journal where they can write or draw their “messages”

This invites ongoing connection, while honoring their individual way of processing.

Reading cards with your child is not about summoning something. It is about softening something: the silence, the ache, the questions too big for words.

It is a way of saying: I see your grief. I see your love. Let’s hold it together.

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